There is a lot that the plus size community keeps to itself. Today, I want to be honest with those who aren't in the plus size community about things that others do that we never admit truly bothers us. Check out the end of this video for a link to an old YouTube video I made called "Why It's Hard Being Big."
1. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT OUR LIFESTYLES
My mom recently found her birth mother and we found out that she has struggled with her weight all her life as well. There are many people, women especially, with issues that cause them to be overweight. For example, PCOS is a fairly common problem many women deal with. It causes weight gain and makes it really hard to get pregnant. I don't struggle with that, but this is just an example!
2. DON'T DISCOUNT MY GREATNESS BECAUSE I'M PLUS SIZED
Sizeism is a real thing! Don't misinterpret what I'm saying. Obviously I agree that physically demanding jobs might not be the best for someone who is plus size. My only problem is when my expertise is discounted because of my size.
3: CHARGING AN OBSCENE AMOUNT OF MONEY FOR A SMALL SELECTION OF SEMI-STYLISH CLOTHING
68 percent of women in America are considered plus size. However, 16 percent of retailers actually sell plus size clothing.
4: STOP MOVING THE GOAL POST
Did you know that you are considered plus size if you wear a size 14? That's insane to me! It is also a major contributor to body image issues, of which more than half of all U.S. women say they struggle with. Do you get how hard it must be to lose weight and go into the store only to find that you're still wearing the same size at that store because of sizing changes?
Why isn't there a standard? We need to make this happen!
5: DON'T TROLL PLUS SIZE HASHTAGS TO SELL YOUR WEIGHT LOSS PRODUCTS OR SERVICES
If you're doing this, that's probably why you have to troll hashtags to find clients in the first place.
As we've already covered, plus size people can have issues beyond being an unhealthy eater who lays on the couch all day. I'm not saying that doesn't exist, but that isn't everyone. I get that this might be a marketing tactic, but we will honestly just shut you down. Why not comment on weight loss hashtags or health and fitness hashtags?
As a complete stranger, you don't know what I have done or am doing to lose weight. Some plus size people have actually been told by doctors that they need to get surgery because nothing else seems to be working for them. Many plus size people are confident with their bodies and don't want to come on to Instagram to that. I personally am for losing weight for health reasons, not for vanity. But your assumptions about my lifestyle will not result in a sale!
If you have ever seen photos of me, you know that I'm a plus size woman. As such, I have a pretty big passion for other people who are plus size. And, let's be honest, there's still so much hate geared toward the plus size community in today's world.
So, for today's post, I want to make the case for a plus-size Disney princess. With more and more children becoming body conscious at earlier ages, I think it is important to provide them with a realistic role model. I'll get in to that more later. So, here's the list:
DISCLAIMER: Being skinny is not a bad thing, and my intent is not to "skinny shame." I think we can all agree that extremes on both ends can be very dangerous and shouldn't be promoted. Please remember this as you're reading!
1: WE FINALLY HAVE REPRESENTED A LOT OF OTHER DEMOGRAPHICS IN DISNEY MOVIES
2: MANY PEOPLE AREN'T PLUS SIZE BY CHOICE
Both of these are fairly common and make weight gain a lot easier and weight loss a lot harder. Also, are we really going to blame poor families for buying the cheap stuff that was badly processed for being overweight? Let’s not, OK?
3: EVEN SO, YOU’RE NOT PROTECTING PEOPLE AGAINST DANGEROUS HABITS
4: BIG WOMEN HAVE BECOME FETISHIZED
5: SUPER-SKINNY PRINCESSES ARE NOT REALISTIC AND DO NOT MATCH THE BODY TYPES OF MOST PEOPLE
In fact, the character could be shown being active and eating healthy. This could promote that lifestyle in children who want to be just like their favorite princess. I have a quick story.
In college, I had joined some of my sorority sisters in trying to get in shape. One of my sisters had been going to the gym every day, eating healthy, etc. She was a plus-sized girl, but she ran laps around our skinniest sisters. That's because she was active. Bodies don't respond the same to weight loss efforts. You can be in terrible shape and be skinny, and in a pretty good shape while plus-sized. This isn't a weird portrayal.
THERE ARE OTHER REASONS
I'm considering a video where I cover these and a few other opinions on this. I just have to figure out how to go about it! Make sure you're watching my socials for a link to the video.
COMMENT: Do you think a plus-size Disney princess is a good or bad idea? Tell me why!
LEGAL: All photos were either taken from Pixabay, a Creative Commons website that requires no attribution for photos, or were found using Google's "free to use or share, even commercially, filter." The ones from Google are linked back to their original page.
As a millennial myself, I’ve heard a number of buzz words and phrases aimed at demeaning my generation. Some of those include lazy, entitled, emotional, uneducated, and stupid. But, for the most part, people of my age don’t all fall into that category.
However, the students who are a part of the college admission scandal seems to align well with the buzz words and phrases often applied to a whole group of people.
If you’re in the U.S., you’ve probably heard news lately of the University of Southern California’s high-profile college admissions scandal. If you haven’t, here’s some information:
The 50 were charged of this crime by a U.S. Attorney in the District of Massachusetts, with some scheduled to appear in court on March 29 in Boston.
AN ONGOING PROBLEM
THIS IS WHY IT ISN'T OK
While more and more people are coming out in support of better and fairer college admissions, money still seemingly rules the world. No one should be admitted into a top school because mommy and daddy have money. Instead, they should get in because they worked hard in class and scored well on college admissions tests.
But it runs much deeper than an undeserving student getting the spot of one who could have gotten there with their own brain and talent. According to TheAtlantic.com, students who graduate from a top school will earn 12 percent more than their peers who graduated from a standard college or university.
WAYS THE RICH HAVE CHEATED THE SYSTEM
Not only have famous and rich parents paid testing officials to allow their children to cheat on entrance exams, they have also hired writers to write papers for their children, bribed officials to note that their child has special needs that will give them extra time on their tests, and hired the best tutors in the world.
WHY IT FRUSTRATES MILLENNIALS
This is the true definition of privilege. The fact that you can take away an opportunity that could have been given to someone who comes from a low-income household is just sick, and I’m glad the political system is doing something about it.
Colleges are vastly underfunded, which makes their need for financial support desperate. Perhaps if the U.S. political system would favor education and provide a better solution for debt repayment, scholarships, and financial aid, schools wouldn’t be tempted by offers like these.
But, it is crucial that you readers understand that these were top schools. They aren’t really wanting for money, they’re just being greedy.
This money should go into underfunded high schools around the U.S. to give those students a better opportunity, especially when their opportunities were ripped away from previous students in earlier years.
In closing, I am not a mother. I’m sure that Loughlin was just trying to do all she could for her babies. But giving them everything they want and not teaching them to work for it is a mistake. It is leading our world to a scary place run by idiots who don’t know how to do their job. It is placing unneeded stress on workers who rank lower, which is causing an influx in depression and anxiety.
The U.S. is sad. No promotions. No raises. No praises for a job well done. I think attacking this issue head on will help improve mental health and job security around the country. What’s your opinion? I want to know!
I recently read an article about a Tennessee law maker who is proposing a bill that will tell parents and other adult school visitors how they can dress and conduct themselves when visiting a school.
I am kind of perplexed by this issue, because I see the benefits and the downfalls of it. Let me talk about the pros and cons today. I’d love to hear your opinion on this in the comments below!
According to Antonio Parkinson, the Tennessee representative proposing the bill, several area principals have witnessed parents wearing lingerie and revealing clothing to school to pick up their children.
He also mentioned that several of them also wear shirts with expletives on them, and that many parents will come in to the school and curse teachers, principals, and other school officials in front of the children.
I know that this statement might get me in some hot water with some readers, but I am a fan of modesty. Now, I have no issues with shoulders the collar bone being exposed, I just have never been a fan of seeing someone’s butt cheeks or a ton of their chest. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a large-chested woman. I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I expose my cleavage, but I think there is a limit.
I believe that, if you’re going to enforce something on students, it should be expected that those same rules apply to faculty, staff, and visitors. If your school says that students can’t have on clothing that depicts violence, guns, or drug paraphernalia, you should not allow visitors, faculty, or staff to wear them either.
By enforcing these rules on adults, you are showing a pattern of consistency with discipline and the student. A student might see their parent dress or act a certain way at school and think that, since their mom or dad was not reprimanded, they can also get away with it.
MY OVERALL VERDICT
I don’t think it is asking too much to have a parent dress decently and act in a polite manner in front of other children. I do think that this can go too far very quickly. Overall, I’d say that strict rules should be left for private schools, while a fair code of conduct should be observed in public schools.
What do you think? I’m interested in hearing your opinion!
If you didn't already see my status update on Twitter, I was recently featured in an article titled "Exposing Millennial Money Myths," by Shelly C. on iThinkFinance.com.
She asked myself and other bloggers and influencers a series of questions based around the financial myths that millennials must work to expose. I wanted to share all of my answers to the myths and, of course, link back to her post.
MYTH 1: ARE MILLENNIALS NOT BUYING HOMES BECAUSE THEY WANT TO SCRIMP OFF THEIR PARENTS?
MYTH 2: MILLENNIALS ARE LAZY, TIRED, AND UNAMBITIOUS
Technology puts the answers to our questions at the tip of our fingertips, which can be good. Our access to technology has changed our behavior, of course. It has made life much easier.
Because of our technology use, we do redefine productivity. I'll give an example. I recently decided to purchase an Amazon Echo Dot and some smart plugs. I can get ready in the morning while telling Alexa to make my coffee. As soon as I'm ready, I just have to pour myself a cup and head to work. I still have to do some work by pre-loading the coffee grinds and water, but it makes my morning much faster!
MYTH 3: MILLENNIALS ARE KILLING THE ECONOMY
Please don't forget to go check out the full article at www.iThinkFinance.com/exposing-millennial-money-myths and go follow @iThinkFinance on Twitter!
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