Hello, my name is Gabbie and I have anemia. It sounds really bad, I know, but more than 1.6 billion people around the world have it!
No matter if you're freshly diagnosed, have had anemia for years, or if you simply know someone with anemia, these few tips might help you live a happier life! Check them out:
1. GET YOURSELF SOME IRON SUPPLEMENTS
2. EAT IRON-RICH FOODS
3. BUILD YOUR SCHEDULE AROUND YOUR ENERGY
4. ADDRESS THE CAUSE OF YOUR ANEMIA
5. MANAGE YOUR STRESS
For today's #WellnessWednesday, I sat down with my husband to compile five tips on how couples like us can maintain a healthy relationship! If you don't know, I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder in 2013 when I was in college.
My anxiety is mostly medical anxiety (I sometimes get scared that something is wrong with me medically when I am perfectly fine.) I also sometimes worry about relationships or if something that I said had a negative impact on someone's view of me.
So, if you want some tips from us, keep reading! Don't forget to drop some of your tips below, as well!
1. REASSURANCE OVER JUDGEMENT
2. BEING A GOOD EAR
3. LEAVING ROOM FOR LAUGHS
4. BE A HELPER ON BAD DAYS
5. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE
Like most of my blog posts, today’s post was inspired by something that happened to me recently. I was speaking to a fellow creator during a lunch meeting last week, and she mentioned that she does a talk with other creators about handling the mean girls of the internet.
So, today I want to focus the blog post on how to process catty, backhanded remarks or rude comments when you have anxiety. In the digital world we’re living in, it is easy to get wrapped up in rude comments and unkind exchanges, so I hope this will help anyone who deals with this frequently!
I’m not certain where it gets its name, but I’m thinking that, because the back of your hand is usually softer and more sensitive than the palm, it means that the compliment or remark will hurt, but won’t hurt too bad.
Let me give some examples:
Ex. 1: Whenever you take photos, I always think you’ve lost so much weight.
So, now that you understand, let’s get in to the way that you should respond when people say these types of things to you!
1: ABSORB THE COMMENT
2: DON’T RETURN THE JAB, BUT DON’T BE NICE
But for those repeaters, I don’t think you should respond by being kind. This makes it seem as though you are OK with the exchange and how they treated you. But returning the jab only lowers you to their level. Instead, respond neutrally or don’t say anything at all after the initial exchange.
3: TELL THEM YOU NEED TO PROCESS
4: TAKE THE TIME TO PROCESS
How would any other person respond to this? Why does this exchange make me feel uncomfortable, sad, or angry? What were the intentions of the person who made the comment? Were they trying to help me or hurt me?”
5: ADDRESS THE EXCHANGE
If they care about you, they will care about how they made you feel. You can adjust the amount of time you spend working with or hanging around the person based on how they make you feel. Some people are naturally offensive, and may not really care if they hurt you.
If the person who made the comment is someone with whom you have to work with, and the situation is bad enough in your opinion, you can always go to your human resources officer and let them know how you handled the situation, what your processing revealed to you, and how your address about the exchange went.
Usually, to keep the peace at work, HR will try to change schedules around so that there isn’t much confrontation.
I HOPE THIS HELPS
I really found that processing something instead of immediately reacting with questions, frustration, and anxiety about what went down is best. This can be super difficult for people who struggle with anxiety because we can’t really control how something messes with our mental health, and it can leave us in a funk all day.
I found that talking to friends and trusted family members helps when trying to process and address the exchanges that make you feel uncomfortable.
It's winter, at least where I am! Not only are you likely facing colder weather, but you're probably about to gather with a ton of friends and family for the holidays. These eight tips will help keep you as healthy as possible this holiday season!
1. KEEP YOUR HANDS CLEAN
2. GET PLENTY OF SLEEP
3. STAY HYDRATED
4. GET MOVING
5. DESTRESS FOR A BETTER WINTER
Welcome to the first Wellness Wednesday of Blogmas! I'm getting so excited about the holidays ahead. I've recently joined a gym and I'm trying to be consistent about going, but the winter weather can make me want to curl up in my bed and stay warm.
So grab your water bottle and get ready for some tips that will help you ace your workout and stay healthy in the cold!
MOVE YOUR WORKOUTS INSIDE
PROTECT YOUR HEAD AND EARS
PACK ON THE LAYERS
FUEL YOUR BODY WITH HOT COFFEE
These are only five ways you can exercise and stay healthy in the winter weather that December brings. I hope some of these were helpful to you. Do you have another tip? Leave it in the comments below!
Thanksgiving calories don't count, right? I wish! If you're trying to stay trim around the holidays, Thanksgiving can be difficult, especially if you have more than one stop to make to visit different family members!
In today's blog post, I'll be giving you some tips on ways you can eat Thanksgiving Dinner without packing on too many pounds!
START WITH WATER
AVOID BREADY FOODS
PACK YOUR PLATE WITH PROTEIN & VEGGIES
GO BLACK FRIDAY SHOPPING
LIMIT YOUR DESSERTS
SAY NO TO EXTRA ALCOHOL
As you can see, maintaining your diet and weight is possible, even at Thanksgiving! Do you have any more tips? Leave them in the comments below.
Everyone handles their anxiety differently, but I always love to do some research to see if someone has any new ideas on handling their anxiety. Sometimes these tips and tricks work, and other times they won’t. It just depends on the person and their level anxiety.
I would say that I’m a fairly anxious person. I’ve opened up about this in a number of blog posts. I find myself worrying over the smallest of things, like the way I spoke to someone or like small symptoms that I worry to be a sign of a bigger problem.
I know, however, that many have it a lot harder than I do. But, I hope this list of coping mechanisms and relaxation tips will help you as much as they help me!
MAKING A VIDEO DIARY
Sometimes, I feel even more anxious and depressed when I talk out loud to myself because, in all honesty, it makes me feel crazy. So, to remedy this, I decided to whip out my iPhone when I have something I need to talk about.
I record myself talking in vlog style. I just kind of open up about the struggles of the day and the frustrations I’m going through. I normally delete my videos because I don’t want to clog up my phone’s memory space. I think it would be really cool if someone created a video diary app where people could record their feelings and see where they used to be in their anxiety journey.
I love this mostly because it helps me get out my frustration and, during my little talks with my “audience,” I often find a new perspective in my feelings that helps me better deal with things.
USING AN OIL DIFFUSER OR CANDLE IN STRESSFUL ZONES
We all have different areas in our home or place of business that are more stressful than others. For me, it is my home office area and my regular office at my job. For myself, scents are powerful and really help me to calm down in stressful situations.
I really recommend an oil diffuser, especially if you aren’t allowed to have candles in your work place like myself. You can purchase oils that are specifically for stress relief. My favorite oil to use is a lavender oil. It really helps to destress a stressful environment.
MAKING LISTS AND SCHEDULES
I can honestly say that creating a to-do list or a schedule really helps me. For example, I bought myself a cheap planner to use for scheduling my blog posts. It helps me to stay organized and I can easily change my post ideas with some white-out.
I have another example. This past weekend, I went back home to help my mom declutter and clean my grandparents’ room. She had made a list of things to do, but they weren’t organized by type. I decided to organize the lists by what needed to be done outside of the house, in my grandparents’ room, in their bathroom, in my mom’s room, and around the house. Then, we were able to prioritize and get the most important things done before moving on to secondary tasks.
PLAYING BRAIN GAMES
I find that I tend to have fewer and fewer anxious episodes when my mind is busy. For that reason, I start almost every day with some brain games. I have two apps on my phone for this particularly. I normally plan a round of sudoku and a game of solitaire. Not only does this help me activate my brain and get it ready for the day, it also helps to take my mind of off super stressful things happening in the background of my life.
KNOWING WHEN IT IS TIME FOR A BREAK
I feel like a ton of people who struggle with anxiety tend to try to be people pleasers for the most part. For me, it’s all because of how I feel someone sees me. I don’t want to be seen as a bad friend for not wanting to hang out, a bad family member for not wanting to help out, or a bad employee for needing a break or being unable to complete something in someone’s desired timeframe.
But, I try to remember back to three or four years ago when I was in college and had to give up some of my leadership positions in my various groups because I simply couldn’t handle the stress. In college, I was the drum major of the band, the editor of the newspaper for three years, in a sorority where I was the president, in gospel choir where I was the president, and in a number of academic honor societies that had different requirements. On top of all of that, I was taking classes full-time.
I decided that I wouldn’t stop being in any of my groups, but I would give up leadership positions in some of them, mainly in my sorority. A group of people actually decided to let someone else be editor of the newspaper my senior year, so that also helped.
But, it is OK and good to take a mental health break. If you have some vacation days at work or you are able to take a long weekend, do it. Even if you just sit at home and watch your favorite shows. You don’t have to go somewhere to relax your mind!
DOING SOMETHING I LOVE
Whenever I'm feeling anxious, it always helps when I do something that I love to take my mind off of that thing that's making me anxious. For myself, that is usually watching a movie, baking, or writing. It is sometimes honestly just going to a room on my own and listening to my favorite music.
Your hobbies will change as you age, and your hobbies will be different. This one really works if you have some friends who also enjoy them. This gives you the chance to be around people who love you doing something you both love to do!
There are a ton of ways out there to cope with anxiety. I know there are many I didn't even mention. If you have any tips or tricks to coping with anxiety attacks, please let me know below in the comments so I can give them a try. I hope these few tips can help someone else out there!
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