Today, I want to talk a little bit about Jonathan and I's housing situation. We made the decision, with the input from my mom and brother, to move back into the house I grew up in. We live there with my mom and my brother.
I wanted to write about this because there's this stigma about living with your parents, and I don't really understand it. Jonathan and I lived on our own and payed full bills for more than 5 years in a different city away fro m both of our families.
When looking for a new job, I knew it felt like the right time to move back toward home so we could be closer to our families. We have lost several influential family members, including both of my grandparents who had a huge hand in raising me with my mom, and Jonathan's dad.
However, I really started to have a lot of issues with my immediate manager. I don't want to go too far into it, but I was having frequent anxiety attacks, and I had to start medications for depression and high blood pressure after he became my supervisor. I knew wholeheartedly that my heightened anxiety and depression was due to this manager. I had to get out of that situation for my own health, and I'm thankful there was ample room at my mom's house for us to settle in.
The move has allowed us to spend more time with our support systems. This gives us a ton of comfort. It also has become really important to us that we spend time with our families after being away for so long.
I'm also excited to have a significant increase in my salary, and Jonathan is currently working a job that pays him weekly. So our finances are getting better, and we are relying less on a credit card!
We also take out our own trash. Since I do the laundry, Jonathan handles our trash. He and my brother swap off on the lawn work. Jonathan is super happy there is a riding lawnmower, because our house has a pretty big front and back yard, which is great for the dogs!
I actually tried my hand and mowing and did an OK job, but Jonathan went back over the areas I missed and did the entire back yard last time.
BREAKING THE STIGMA
My main motivation for making this post is the break the stigma associated with living with your parents. As long as you're contributing to the household, I don't believe it should be frowned upon, especially not in this economy.
I've proven we can live alone and handle our own bills fully. But this way of living is better financially for everyone involved. I always found it funny that when you're young, you live with your parents and then when your parents are older, they live with you. For whatever reason, people are convinced they shouldn't live with you in the middle of your life.
But I'm loving this chapter. I'm around my family and Jonathan's family, working at a job that I've been loving, and focusing once again on making content and taking care of myself mentally and physically.