Many of my friends will admit that they say two specific words a little bit too much: I'm sorry. It's become a sort of over-used phrase that we throw out there when we don't want to offend someone. But, those aren't the two words I believe we should stop using in 2019. You know what I think we need to stop using as often in 2019?
Because "I'm Sorry" has become a normal way to apologize or a normal phrase we throw out when we try not to offend someone, "It's OK" has become just as common. Why? Because we want to return politeness, or at least the idea of it, back to the person apologizing? Because it is a rational response to the question?
In today's post, I want to tell you why I think we all need to stop saying "It's OK" every time someone apologizes.
WHY YOU SHOULD STOP SAYING IT ALL THE TIME
You tell someone you love them or you are praying for them because you want them to feel loved or appreciated. The same can be said for when someone apologizes to you. Did they really mean it? Perhaps this is a bit of a cynical point of view. However, evidence shows me that most people are just concerned with what would be best for them. If that means avoiding an argument or maintaining a relationship that is beneficial for them, they will say whatever it takes.
The truth is, it is OK for something to not be OK. Everyone makes mistakes. But, perhaps if we were better about not saying "It's OK" after someone says "I'm Sorry," the power would be restored to the apology. It shouldn't be about just being polite. Some people are always going to be fine with inconveniencing you or hurting you to gain something for themselves.
- Your coffee has been sitting by the take out window for 10 or more minutes and the worker decides to walk off to talk to a coworker instead of taking 2 minutes to hand you your coffee so you won't be late for work.
- A company or venue goes against their own policy and thinks an "I'm Sorry" is good enough.
- A friend or family member says they are sorry for not liking someone you are in a relationship with.
- A friend or family member continually repeats the same action that hurts you and keeps saying they are sorry.
I could go on, but you get the gist.
WE ALL DO IT
I hope that today's blog post will help you to be more cautious is saying "It's OK" when someone does something they truly aren't sorry for. However, I hope it also helps you to be more conscientious of when to use the words "I'm Sorry."
The truth is, sometimes we aren't sorry. We should stop throwing around that word for the sake of politeness. Sometimes, you don't need to apologize for something, especially if it is out of your control. You don't need to apologize for something you aren't truly sorry for. But we all do it. It will take getting used to, but I'm determined to make it happen this year. I'm determined to restore the power of the apology by limiting my use of "I'm Sorry" and "I'm OK." I hope you are too!